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I Feel Betrayed.

How does it feel, when you start your morning, and know that you have been set up for something? Something that of course, you didn’t know before. You think everything is going to be okay and you just do what you do. But then something came up and nobody has ever told you before about it. Nobody has ever discussed before. Just one simple “yeah, it’s not so important, we’ll tell her later”, or “she’s going to have to agree”. And how does it feel when you know that the decision is almost impossible not to be followed. Even more, it has been made just so some faces and reputation can be saved. Talk about saving something by sacrificing others’. Even worse, deep inside, they know the ‘plan’ is not going to be a hundred percent successful.

Talk about bad decision.

Knowing that you’re still an outsider.

Knowing that there’s still somebody out there, who would rather be a kind of backstabber, than have a gut to tell a thing right in front of your face.

Knowing that, in the end, you’re powerless.

How does it feel.

How should I feel?

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Batavia, Oh…Batavia…

Pailit, Batavia Air Stop Operasi Mulai Pk. 00.00
http://id.berita.yahoo.com/pailit-batavia-air-stop-operasi-mulai-pk-00-153743620–finance.html

Ini berita udah lama, tapi barusan aja gw keingat pengalaman waktu naik Batavia rute Denpasar – Jakarta. Jadi ceritanya itu sekantor mau balik setelah gathering. Di dalam pesawat, gw udah persiapan pasang headset, pasang eyecover (karena gw ga punya sunglasses euy! That stuff sucks too, one of the most sucked things ever made) supaya gw bisa tidur dengan tenang selama perjalanan. Entah kenapa, gw lupa negakin sandaran kursi. Padahal sebelum2nya gw ingat. Eh udah gitu, temen samping gw manggil, ternyata ada pramugara mau ngomong ke gw tapi gw ga denger karena udah masang headset. Gw buka headset kanan gw, ealah tahu gak dia bilang apa? “Headsetnya bisa satu aja ngga? Tegakin kursi.” Dengan tampang yang digalak-galakin.

 

Sekarang, begitu baca berita Batavia Air pailit, gw cuma berharap pramugara itu bisa dapet kerjaan di tempat lain.

TSS.

 

Drop it like it's hot, B!

Drop it like it’s hot, B!

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Bully.

Gw sedang membaca baca timeline twitter. Dan ketemulah satu tweet seperti ini:

a sample of bully-sounded tweet

a sample of bully-sounded tweet

Normally, I don’t really care what other people tweets, but this one is an exception. Buktinya gw langsung bereaksi, dengan meng-capture timeline-nya dan membalas dengan hashtag BULLY. Karena menurut gw ini seperti ‘ajakan’ kepada anak muda (anak gadis, utamanya) untuk bertindak iseng. Nah coba kalo ada yang ngikutin tweet ini, dan mem-post foto teman sebangkunya lagi ‘bengong’? Apa tujuannya coba? Untuk dinikmati dan ditertawakan? Kalau ada foto yang (amit2) menggambarkan ‘kebengongan’ itu dengan sangat parah, apakah kemungkinan akan di-retweet dan ditertawakan oleh lebih banyak orang?

Sebeginikah ‘kewajiban’ bagi sebuah brand kecantikan remaja untuk tetap meng-update timeline-nya, sehingga tidak bisa memikirkan hal yang lebih baik, lebih positif, ketimbang sekedar cuap2 ngajakin followernya twitpic tampang orang laen lagi bengong? Lah mungkin saja orang itu sedang tidak bengong, tapi lagi mikirin hal lain, mana tahu dia bahkan lagi punya masalah? Apakah kita pernah mikir sampe kesitu saat sedang sembarangan nge-snap muka orang? Gw rasa tidak. Dan apalagi remaja2 labil yang umurnya di bawah 20, tapi sudah bebas menggunakan smartphone, begitu ngebaca tweet seperti ini yang bernada persuasif, mungkin tanpa pikir panjang langsung balik kiri balik kanan mencari ‘mangsa/korban bengong’.

Gila. Satu kata yang menggambarkan semuanya. Post yang tidak bertanggung jawab. Bully. Yang lebih lucu, tweet sebelumnya adalah salam dan ucapan yang baik, tapi tidak diteruskan dengan hal yang sama. Memang namanya social media, orang bebas bersuara. Tetapi gw tidak habis pikir, bahkan gw mikir keras apa hubungannya produk Belia dengan nge-twitpic tampang orang laen lagi bengong. Apa hubungannya kehidupan dan euphoria ‘remaja yang aktif, dinamis, dan modern’ dengan tindakan iseng yang mungkin suatu hari bakal merugikan pihak lain. Bikin malu. Adminnya siapa sih, dalem hati. Mungkin gw lebay kali ya, “begini doank dibesar2in.” Oh, no. Ini namanya menimbulkan ‘digital drama’. Dari hal kecil beginilah yang bikin para remaja/anak di bawah umur lebih cepat galau, akhirnya bunuh diri. Google noh kalo masih tidak tahu.

Sekali lagi, social media, orang bebas bersuara. Tapi mikir dulu keq kalo nulis sesuatu. Apalagi kalau account-nya mewakili sebuah merek yang dikenal banyak orang (remaja, once again!!!) dan tentu tidak mau reputasinya terganggu hanya karena satu ajakan iseng. Goblok.

 

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Update:
Reply dari account twitter Martha_Tilaar, parent company the so-called teenage beauty brand:

The reply

The reply

And this morning I checked, ‘the tweet’ was still there. Well, that’s NOT OK!

TSS.

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“I’m So Proud of You.”

Brandon Teena (born Teena Renae Brandon) was an American trans man, a female to male transgender person, who was raped and murdered in Humboldt, Nebraska. 

In 1999, Teena became the subject of a biopic entitled Boys Don’t Cry, starring Hilary Swank as Teena, which gave Swank an Academy Award for Best Actress.
JoAnn Brandon (Teena’s mother) publicly objected to the media referring to her child as “he” and “Brandon”. Following Hilary Swank’s Oscar acceptance speech, JoAnn Brandon took offense at Swank for thanking “Brandon Teena” – the name Teena Brandon adopted – and for referring to her as a man. “That set me off,” said JoAnn Brandon. “She should not stand up there and thank my child. I get tired of people taking credit for what they don’t know.

source: Wikipedia
Wacth Hilary Swank’s Oscar acceptance speech on Youtube

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This might be a little off the story above and not too similar, but has the same point. I really hate people who carelessly used the words “I’m so proud of you”. Whatever happens, mostly when someone achieves something, it is them who stand up and address the message. It is like, other people want to claim the victory for what we have achieved, as if it is them who have made it. Think about it. “I’m proud of you” ? For what? A thing I’ve achieved? Triumph over the dark period of my life? People don’t know what I have been through. And if they do so, they still wanna take credit for it, and claim the glory. And with that, added a sympathetic-like sound. Which, far deep in their hearts, there goes “You wouldn’t be without me, or my help.” What the hell.

I will more accept if they used the words “I’m happy for you”. I think everyone can see the difference. It is the most sincere, honest, truthful expression anyone can use, and without taking the honor over from someone. It’s just that, not every time, every person who claim that they are proud of me is really know what is going on. And the thoughtfulness sound doesn’t help. It doesn’t FIT the situation. No one should use words that they don’t really understand.

Please don’t take the wrong way, I love Hilary Swank, but I have to be on JoAnn’s side this time.

Well, it’s just me. Just my thought. TSS.

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Makeup and Beauty-related Mistakes I Did in My Fragile Years ;)

  • Overdrawn eyebrows. And of course wrong brow color choice. I think I just wanted to look ‘pro’ by having a good-looking eyebrows, which is not a crime, but I didn’t really have a good role model or good sample. Almost everyone around me, either they don’t do their eyebrows or overdone them, making them so thin and highly arched, and now I know not everyone is suitable with the high-arched style eyebrows.
  • Using foundation and BB cream without any base. Now this is definitely wrooong, because doesn’t matter how good the foundation is, you MUST use base first. I figured that by wearing foundation alone, it could stain my skin, because foundations (or even BB creams, which they said a foundation and skincare in-between) are tinted, and having makeup base first would create a ‘barrier’ between bare skin and the foundation. Which I agree.
  • Wearing makeup overnights. Flashback to those stupid moments, I got goosebumps ;D I was a pretty lazy person, and became more lazy when it comes to removing makeup and washing my face in the night. I hope I won’t do the same thing again.
  • Going outside without sunscreen. (Now I know why my face skin tone is darker than any other body parts)
  • Overused of night creams. I know night cream is important, but like they say, less is more. I tend to put too much on at night, making it super oily in the next morning. Now I choose the less-oily and serum-like ones.
  • Wrong shade of foundation. This probably takes more than a lifetime, knowing your skin tone and finding a good foundation shade that matches, especially if you’re a fool like me ;D I search everything and learn on my own, I don’t go to beauty counters to ask for suggestions because they might be more wrong than I am. I have feelings about that. I’m still learning right now, but generally, I know I’m a yellow-undertone, and I avoid any pink-based makeup, foundations in particular.
  • Overdone smokey eyes. Now I think the word ‘overdone’ might be not suitable for this, but this is what I mean: using a black shadow all over eyelids and not blending it. It might work on some people, but not on me. I looked scary. From this mistake I also learned that blending is a core technique anyone should master, because it makes a lot differences to your makeup application.
  • Picking up pimples. I (and anyone!) should have known better, let the acne bumps heal themselves (yes, our body have the ability to do that), or use other medications, not your hands!
  • Applying nail polish without base. This is the same like foundation. The bottomline is: colors should have a base. Having nail polish base coat could prevent the nails from getting yellow, smooth nail’s surface, and make the colors apply better.
  • Buying products and not using them 😉 So from the moment that I was more of a over-spend girl to budget-beauty lady, I only purchase things that I think I would use. So there’s no useless trash here. Now I also tend to search and read for reviews first, so I know if something is right for me or not.
  • Wearing contacts overnights. OMG, this is seriously one of the things you shouldn’t do because, well, putting ‘something’ directly on your eyes is scary enough, and you don’t wanna make it scarier and uncontrolled by let them sit overnight without removing and rinsing them. Eyes are the windows of the heart, and you wanna avoid anything that makes your windows blurry ;D
  • Using the same dirty brushes for weeks (or even for months, I can’t remember). And then I learned that unwashed makeup brushes can collect bacteria and other bad stuffs you don’t want to be transferred to your face, I always wash my used brushes once a week.

I feel stupid to have written this, because I’m not an expert at all, but these are based on my experienced, so maybe I could help somebody out. Of course, if I remember something from my early naive years, I would add it in this post.

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